1. I already accidentally missed the High School's Back to School Night this year, and . . .
Friday, September 17, 2021
Friday, September 10, 2021
|Achieved but the weird thing is two nights when I had insomnia this song decided to haunt my brain. That's what I get for going cold turkey I guess.|
5. Getting back to supposedly writing my memoir.
Friday, September 3, 2021
|thank you, sweet yellow bus of mercy|
I love my children so much that I can still cry talking about what a privilege it is to be their mother. But I'm also on the verge of being completely overwhelmed and just need a break. So I do not feel at all guilty about literally REJOICING over the start of the new, five full days a week school year.
I've got a lot planned for my upcoming solo time! Like:
1. Getting back into my near-daily exercise habit. I was doing really well with this for the majority of the summer so I don't know what happened--but I feel better physically and mentally when I'm getting more activity so this on the top of the list.
2. Getting back to supposedly writing my memoir. Remember my memoir? I barely do so I don't expect you to. But maybe, just maybe . . . you'll see it in the next 5-10 years. Oh and I'll record at least one more episode of my fake podcast that I started for my sister but then dropped when things got too hectic (not to mention the issues with consistent riding I had mid-to-late summer.)
3. Utilize my time in ways that might seem odd--like making dinner at 10am--but in the long run will make my life so much easier because I'll be running around so much for sports games and practices in the afternoon.
4. Do things like pick the throw pillows off the floor, put them back on the couch, and then not have to do it again ten minutes later.
5. Not listen to a single Olivia Rodrigo song for at least eight hours . . . nor any bickering at all. (I'd take Olivia on loop over the bickering though, to be honest)
Friday, August 27, 2021
While driving our youngest to her dental cleaning recently, I admitted that I was feeling a little overwhelmed by trying to do all the things.
Friday, August 20, 2021
Me: Oh! You’re wondering about my Vespa because I haven’t said a single word about him or posted any pictures on instagram in so, so long? I am so sorry. Let me oblige you!
|Reunited . . . and it feels so good!|
Friday, August 13, 2021
|Only known moment these two have ever gotten along while not away with Grandparents.|
Friday, August 6, 2021
Have you ever noticed how much writing about parenting centers around babies and young children? I guess that's when the biggest learning curve is. But the learning never stops . . . it can't. These kids and the times keep changing and forcing us to adapt.
Nearly twenty-one years into parenting (which was preceded by twelve years of providing childcare), I find I am still figuring things out. Here are some recent realizations I've had:
1. My personal expectations for what a college experience should be are (possibly outdated and) not my kids' expectations. Also, these are really weird times, anyway. Nothing's normal.
2. Just as when they were younger and I had to learn how to accept help from my village, I now find myself learning to accept the fact that sometimes we need to pay money to have people help us do the things we could/should/used to do. (I'm looking at you, Kumon. I'm grateful we can get your services for the kids, but could you . . . maybe make the face on your logo look a *tiny* bit happier??)
3. Also, in regards to #2: I know what I said. But things change: our younger kids are different types of learners than our older kids and the past year and a half of hybrid education has not been easy. And we still squeeze in plenty of hammock lazing, bone finding, music making, swims and bike rides.
|Totally still a magical summer.|
4. After the world's easiest girl-child followed by three boys, I have learned that I am, and I cannot stress this enough, I am woefully ill-equipped to deal with a pre-menstrual pre-teen. My god, is this what other people have been dealing with all along??
5. Lastly, and this is where I get sappy: in spite of having to swallow the semi-bitter pill of accepting these new realities, the best realization I've had recently was remembering the enormity of this privilege. I actually started to cry about it when I was talking about this the other day:
I've been thinking about some of our friends who have kids our older kids' ages and then, like normal people, stopped having babies. They're nearly empty-nesters now, with their kids all off at college. Yet I'm still scrambling every day to figure out dinner for seven and who's picking up the thirteen-year-old later and did everyone do their summer tutoring work and should I sign the fifteen-year-old up for that basketball camp . . . .?
And that makes me feel so incredibly lucky.
Friday, July 30, 2021
It's nearly August which means we've reached the "oh my god there are so many things we still want to do!!" stage of the summer.
I realized, though, as I started to assemble a bucket list in my mind, that that list is changing as our family does. Just like our college students' individual plans earlier this summer meant that our family vacation this year was parents and primarily three kids (one young adult did join us at the end), our other summer plans are also evolving. So, for example, when I found myself thinking "we haven't even been to the reservoir yet," I had a follow-up thought of "the kids don't even really like that anymore. Take it off the list."
The reservoir used to be a big part of our lives. When the oldest two were toddlers, we'd get there as the lifeguards started their shifts, played for a few hours, ate our picnic lunch and then go home for a nap. Sometimes we'd even go back again in the afternoon! Here's a sketch I made in those days:
|"If only my kids were still young"|
"If only I had a minute to sit and read"
Seventeen years later, I find myself somewhere between the two women. While the appeal of splashing in shallow water and playing in the sand for hours on end has waned with my family, we now have other activities we like to do together . . . and had better get to those that we haven't done yet, because summer is nearly over.
The evolved summer bucket list includes:
1. A day at the
reservoir Jersey shore . . . this is sort of a requirement when you live in New Jersey, isn't it? No matter how old your kids are.
2. Visiting family members we didn't get to see at all last year because of the pandemic. It's easier to do without school schedules to work around and when the weather is nice enough for outdoor visiting and group activities.
3. Ignore looking at school schedules and shopping lists for as long as humanely possible.
4. Family bonfire down by the pond.
5. Ice cream for dinner!